Fleshlight vs. Tenga

Fleshlight vs. Tenga
(vs. Fleshlight)

If you’re toying (unintentional pun) with the idea of upgrading from your right hand, there are two names to know if you haven’t heard them already—Fleshlight and Tenga. They’re the two biggest names in sex toys for dudes and they’re the most well-known for a reason—they design their products like they give a damn. They’re sort of like the Apple and Samsung of Men’s sex toys (respectively).

See also: Fleshlight Go vs. Fleshlight Flight

This Fleshlight vs. Tenga comparison really is a bit like the male sex toy version of the Apple iPhone vs. the Samsung Galaxy. We’re looking at two companies making not just similar products, but “ecosystems” of accessories. These products were designed for the same purpose, but take some slightly different approaches. Price-wise, they’re in the same ballpark, and at a glance it’s hard to imagine them being much different. But, spending some hands-on time with both of them reveals some definite differences—and preferences quickly emerge. Unlike smart phones though, you can’t just walk into a store and try them both out—thank God—so let this in-depth In Bed shootout be your guide to choosing between the best from Fleshlight and Tenga.

The contenders

Fleshlight Flight vs Tenga Flip vs Fleshlight

Left to right, the Fleshlight Flight Pilot ($49), the Tenga Flip Hole Black ($75), and the original Fleshlight with a Wonder Wave sleeve ($70).

Originally, we were just going to compare the full-size Fleshlight to the Tenga Flip because those are the two main flagship products from both companies and because they were similar in price. But when we got to actually look at them in person, we began to think that the Tenga Flip had a lot in common with the more compact version of the Fleshlight called the “Flight”. So to make things interesting, we added the Flight into the mix to see how it holds up against Fleshlight’s own iconic original Fleshlight design, as well as the top competitor, the Tenga Flip Hole.

Ordering and Delivery

Fleshlight Wonder Wave: ★★★★★ (5/5)
Tenga Flip Hole (from Toy Demon): ★★★★★ (5/5)
Fleshlight Flight: ★★★★★ (5/5)

Highlights: All orders were delivered discreetly and without a hitch from both companies. The Fleshlight.com website is a little sexier, but Toy Demon’s Tenga inventory is enormous.

If you’ve read our main Fleshlight deep-dive article, you already know that our previous experience ordering direct from Fleshlight was great. Products arrived on time, without a hitch, and the packages and credit card statements were both discreet—marked only as “ILF” in Austin, TX. It was no different with this order. This was our fourth order from Fleshlight and we’re impressed by the consistency.

Tenga doesn’t sell direct, so we decided to order from a distributor called Toy Demon, which specializes in Japanese adult toys (Tengas are designed in Japan). Toy Demon seems to house one of the most complete lines of Tenga products on the internet, and that’s impressive given the variety of products that Tenga makes. The order through Toy Demon went off without any problem as well. We’ll probably be sourcing more Tenga items for review from Toy Demon in the future.

Ordering the Fleshlight Wonderwave [NSFW Link]
Ordering the Fleshlight Flight [NSFW Link]
Ordering the Tenga Flip Hole Black [NSFW Link]

Design and Materials

Fleshlight Wonder Wave: ★★★★☆ (4/5)
Tenga Flip Hole: ★★★☆☆ (3/5)
Fleshlight Flight: ★★★★★ (5/5)

Highlights: All three feel premium compared with many other toys for guys on the market, but the Fleshlight Flight stands out as the most well-engineered. The Tenga case feels a bit delicate in comparison. The Fleshlight sleeves are sensual and inviting, but the Tenga sleeve is clammy and smells funny.

tenga-vs-fleshlight

Fleshlight Design

Nice design, but nobody will mistake it for a flashlight sitting on your nightstand.

The original Fleshlight has been around since the early 2000s, and over time, the company has refined it to the point of perfection. Fit and finish is hardly “toy-like”. It feels better engineered and more solid than many mainstream household products. Since it has been around since 2000 though, it’s definitely more recognizable and less discreet than the other two. It’s also bigger and heavier than the others. The mass makes it feel nice, but the size makes it harder to hide. And, just to be clear, nobody is going to mistake a Feshlight for being a flashlight. But, it’s still a premium product and it feels worthy of the price.

The most sensual sleeve material: Original Fleshlight

Fleshlight sleeve

If it feels this nice to the fingers…

Likewise, the internal removable sleeve of the original Fleshlight feels completely luxurious to the touch—soft, silky, stretchy, and generous. (See the main Fleshlight review for more details on how the sleeves feel.) Even well-endowed guys shouldn’t run out of room in this thing, and that adds to the “more-than-you-would-ever-need” sense of luxury and abundance that comes with the original Fleshlight.

Tenga says no guarantee the Flip will last more than 50 uses. We believe it. No such disclaimer comes with the Fleshlights.

Tenga Flip clasp

Be careful: the clip on the Tenga flip feels a bit fragile.

The plastic casing on the Tenga Flip, on the other hand, is a little less thick and more Flexible than the solid Fleshlight case. Whereas the Fleshlight case feels like it would be hard to break, the Tenga Flip’s plastic housing feels like it would crack if it fell on a tile floor or if you sat on it. And then there’s the little clip that holds the two halves together and doubles as the drying stand—it’s quite bendy and definitely won’t take much abuse. The product description for the Tenga Flip says it’s designed for only 50 uses, and we believe it. The Fleshlights have no such disclaimer. Take care of them, and they should last a long time.

Inside the Tenga feels clammy to the touch and leaves your finger smelling funny.

Inside the Tenga Flip Hole Black

Looks cool but feels clammy and smells chemical funky.

The internal (non-removable) sleeve material of the Tenga Flip feels clammy and sticky to the touch compared to both the Fleshlights. When felt with fingers, the Fleshlight sleeves feel sensual and inviting, but the Tenga material feels more industrial. And the Tenga gel material smells industrial too—it has a fairly strong chemical smell that clings to your hands after handling it. It’s not a biting, dangerous type of smell, but it constantly reminds you that you’re messing with a large wad of plastic gel, and that can be kind of distracting when you’re trying to lose yourself in fantasy. The Fleshlights don’t have much of a noticeable smell at all

The compact Fleshlight Flight (Pilot) is just great design—by any standards, not just sex toy standards.

Fleshlight Flight

The Fleshlight Flight is more discreet, compact, and affordable than both the full-size Fleshight and the Tenga Flip, yet it somehow feels even more solid and well-engineered than the original Fleshlight. Something about the thickness of the plastic case, the way the caps go on so solidly, and the little design details just feel really nice. The case is less recognizable than the original Fleshlight, which is appreciated, and the design is modern. If keeping your sex toy on the down-low is a priority, such as if you have roommates or nosy family around, this is the Fleshlight for you.

Likewise, the compact Fleshlight Flight is a really good choice for incorporating into partner play. The light weight and size make it easy for a partner to wield it, and the nondescript entry design might be a little more socially comfortable than the big pink artificial vagina design of the original Fleshlight.

The Tenga entry looks like a catfish’s mouth. Fleshlight Flight looks inviting. The original Fleshlight…is definitely not subtle.

Entries: Fleshlight vs. Tenga

Entries, left to right: Tenga Flip Hole, Fleshlight Flight, original Fleshlight.

The luxuriousness of the Flight’s sleeve is just a point or two less than that of the original Fleshlight, but it still feels miles ahead of the Tenga’s sleeve. Like the Tenga Flip, the Pilot features a non-descript entry rather than the anatomically correct original Fleshlight—another point for being discreet, but the entry on the Pilot is much more inviting than the Tenga. The plump padding says, “I feel good”, whereas the Tenga Flip entry looks a little like a catfish’s mouth—not so sensual.

Usage

Fleshlight Wonder Wave: ★★★★☆ (4/5)
Tenga Flip Hole: ★★☆☆☆ (2/5)
Fleshlight Flight: ★★★☆☆ (5/5)

Highlights: The big Fleshlight is practically silent when the cap is halfway on, and the Flight is muted, but the Tenga makes some awful, unsexy slurping, burping, and farting sounds.

We really imagined that the Tenga’s flip-hinge design would give it all sorts of advantages over the Fleshlights. When it came to actually using it though, some of these advantages ended up working against it. Although the ability to open it completely allowed for easy lubrication and cleanup (more about cleanup further down), the sliding clasp that held the two halves closed wasn’t consistently easy to slide on and off. You have to line it up precisely in order for it to slide on and clasp the unit together, and four times out of five, it would slip off—not a fun exercise when you’re horny and need to get off. There was no such annoyance with either of the Fleshlights—just twist off the top, drop in a bit of lube, and enjoy.

The Tenga made unsexy slurping and farting sounds. No bueno, mi amigos. No bueno.

A far bigger offense of the Tenga, however, was the sounds that happened during use. They ranged from the dreaded “stirring mac and cheese” sticky sound to straight-up fart sounds. I don’t know if this happens for everyone or if there’s something about my anatomy that makes it happen, but for whatever reason it happens, it really took me out of my zone. In doing some research on other peoples’ experiences with the Tenga Flip, I should point out that some guys actually like the sounds. But, for me personally, it’s a turn-off. This didn’t happen with either of the Fleshlights. With the end cap halfway on, the full-size Fleshlight was practically silent, and the Fleshlight Flight was very quiet—only the sound of air passing in and out could be heard when it did make a sound. A quiet sex toy is one that you’ll feel comfortable using more often.

And then there’s a durability concern with the Tenga. The Tenga Flip has three “buttons” on the top and bottom that can supposedly be used to moderate suction and enhance the sensation. (I didn’t find that functionality to be that effective or stimulating, by the way.) After the fourth test run with the Tenga, it developed a small tear around the top button. It didn’t really affect the sensation or the usability, but it doesn’t bode well for the longevity of the Tenga Flip.

Both the full-size Fleshlight and the Fleshlight Flight were as good as new after five test-runs each, which is consistent with our previous deep-dive test of the Fleshlight.

Sensations—what counts the most

Fleshlight Wonder Wave: ★★★★★ (5/5)
Tenga Flip Hole: ★☆☆☆☆ (1/5)
Fleshlight Flight: ★★★★☆ (4/5)

Highlights: The Fleshlight Wonder Wave was breath-taking, and the Fleshlight Flight was pleasantly tight and focused, but I preferred my own boring hand to the Tenga Flip Black.

I had been looking at the Tenga Flip Hole Black for a while before ordering it, and my expectations were high. After experiencing a couple of different Fleshlights, I had learned that the more interesting textures usually resulted in more interesting and exciting new sensations. The Tenga Flip Black texture looks so varied and exciting that I expected it to be a real thrill-ride. I mean, it looks wild, and I expected it to feel wild. But instead, I was completely surprised to find it the opposite.

The inside of the Tenga looks like it would feel amazing, but it’s surprisingly vague.

Inside the Tenga Flip Hole Black

This looks like it would feel amazing, but it doesn’t. I don’t know why.

There was so much different stuff going on inside the Tenga Flip Hole Black that it just felt like noise. I can only describe it as an unfocused mess. I could never really hook up to a particular sensation. I tried it five times and out of those times I was only able to get off with it once, and that was after about a week without masturbation or sex. Three other times I switched back to my hand, and once, I switched over to the Fleshlight Flight. I was truly surprised. Maybe if I had never felt a Fleshlight or actual sex, the Tenga would have felt better to me, but it just didn’t do much for me.

Update: Since writing this review I’ve read in several places that the Tanga Flip Hole White (I tried the black) is a different experience—that the material is softer and that it just feels nicer. I plan to redo this comparison again but with a lineup that includes the Tenga Fliphole White.

The inside of the Fleshlight Wonder Wave looks simple, but it feels like nothing I’ve ever felt before. (In a good way.)

Inside the Fleshlight Wonder Wave

It looks simple, but the waves of sensation just don’t stop. It’s amazing.

Learn more about the Wonder Wave.

Learn more about the Wonder Wave texture and see inside at Fleshlight.com.

The Fleshlight Wonder Wave, on the other hand, was relentless pleasure beyond anything I could experience with my hand. Again, based on the simplicity of the design compared to the Tenga, I was surprised by how good it felt—it was wonderful. I had a hard time making it last as long as I wanted. I wanted the sessions with the Wonder Wave to last for at least 30 minutes, but it felt so good that it was a challenge to keep it going longer than ten minutes. Moving it very, very slowly was breathtaking. For a more detailed account of what the full-size Fleshlight Wonder Wave feels like, check out our deep-dive Fleshlight review.

More about the Wonder Wave on Fleshlight.com.

The Fleshlight Flight—just about as good as the regular Fleshlight, just more compact.

Feeling inside the Fleshlight Flight

Have we mentioned that all of our photos are done before the products are used? Weird pict, we know. But just trust me, this feels amazing.

See inside the Fleshlight Flight Pilot

Learn more about the Flight Pilot texture and see inside at fleshlight.com.

The Fleshlight Flight was also great—a little tighter and a little more focused than the Wonder Wave, but not quite as luxurious. The texture looks a little on the wild side compared to the Wonder Wave, but it actually felt a little more mild than the Wonder Wave. (Perhaps this is all a lesson in “less is more”?) The full-size Fleshlight felt subtly more silky than the Flight, but considering the compact discreetness of the Fleshlight Flight, the trade-off is perfectly acceptable and a small one at that. And on the positive side, I was able to make the “getting there” last longer with the Fleshlight Flight than I could with the full-size Fleshlight Wonder Wave.

More about the Fleshlight Flight Pilot on Fleshlight.com.

Cleanup and Care

Fleshlight Wonder Wave: ★★☆☆☆ (2/5)
Tenga Flip Hole: ★★★★★ (5/5)
Fleshlight Flight: ★★★☆☆ (3/5)

Highlights: When it comes to cleanup, the Tenga Flip’s drying stand and ability to open up makes it shine. The full-size Fleshlight, on the other hand, takes forever to dry. The Flight—a little quicker.

Fleshlight drying.

The jumbled mess of Fleshlight components that have to sit out and dry after cleanup. You don’t want to leave this stuff out where someone outside your circle of trust will stumble upon it.

As we discovered while conducting the Fleshlight deep-dive review, the only real drawback to the Fleshlight is not so much the cleaning as it is the drying. Although it’s really only an issue if discreetness is a factor—such as if you have roommates etc., the fact that the sleeve insert has to sit out for anywhere from an hour to a full day, depending on the humidity and temperature, means that you’re going to have to be careful about when and where you choose to use it. Unless, of course, you’re prepared to have to have an awkward conversation if someone happens upon it.

Score another point for the Fleshlight Flight when it comes to being discreet. At roughly half the size of the full-size Fleshlight, it dries out more quickly than the big Fleshlight. You’ll only have to leave it sitting out to dry for about about half the time as the full-size Fleshlight.

Tenga Flip Hole Drying

This is what the Tenga Flip does best…dry quickly.

But, the winner in this category is easily the Tenga Flip. The Flip gets its name from the fact that you can “flip” it open completely for cleaning and leave it sitting open on a stand for fast drying. It’s as if Tenga was gunning for the Fleshlight’s weak spot and, exclusively in regards to cleanup, it hits the target. In testing all three of these, it was a relief to be able to get the Tenga put away completely dry well before friends came over.

Conclusion: Fleshlight keeps its crown

The whole point of sex toys is their ability to allow people to discover their body’s full potential to experience pleasure, and the Fleshlights do exactly that.

Fleshlight Flight and Wonderwave

If the Tenga Flip simply could have kept my attention during use and didn’t make farting sounds, its ability to dry fast after cleaning would have probably made it the winner. I had high expectations and actually expected it to win—or at least do better in this comparison. But the whole reason sex toys are appealing in the first place is their ability to allow people to discover their body’s full potential to experience pleasure, and the Fleshlights do exactly that and then some. The drying time of the Fleshlights is worth dealing with for the sake of the pleasures you can discover and the overall quality of the product. If an uncompromising and luxurious sensation is what you’re after, and being super-secret about your sex toy isn’t a priority, the full size original Fleshlight with just about any of the textures is what you want. If you need something more compact and more discreet (or more affordable), the $49 Fleshlight Flight Pilot is a very, very close second.

Ordering the Fleshlight Wonderwave [NSFW Link]
Ordering the Fleshlight Flight [NSFW Link]
Ordering the Tenga Flip Hole Black [NSFW Link]

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21 Responses

  1. Agony says:

    I am really surprised that the author enjoyed the Fleshlights more. I was an avid Fleshlight user until I discovered the Tengas (especially the Flip Hole Zero). I find that the Fleshlights remove your own touch from your masturbatory experience. The Tengas let you squeeze, lightly or more severely, and change the pressure on your member throughout your experience. The Fleshlights I never will use again as they are just a one dimensional toy. A hole with the sensations only within. They never change. The Tenga is different every time by putting differing amounts of pressing on the outside buttons.

    I’ve taken care of my Tengas. They’ve lasted more than 50 uses. They are easy to clean. They don’t make strange “sounds” (unless you’re using a LOT of lube). Well, to each their own I guess. I’ve just never had as good an experience with a t Fleshlight as I’ve now had with the new Tengas (Flip Hole, and new Tenga Air-Tech Twist Tickle).

    • In Bed Staff says:

      Thanks for sharing your experience. In the coming year we hope to feature more of the Tenga products. So far, it has just been the one Black Flip Hole, which a number of people have pointed out might not be the best example. Honestly, the Black was just picked because it looked cool next to the Fleshlights. I’ve read that the White Flip is a totally different experience, and I’ll include your suggestions here when it comes time to choose the next Tenga products!

  2. kor says:

    Hi there!
    (Sorry, english is not my native language)

    Some years ago my ex-girlfriend offers me a tenga egg : this was great as a first sextoy, but it lasts only for 2 or 3 usages. Then I bought the Tenga 3D spiral as a sustainable sextoy.

    Although I m an average-sized guy (about 6.1 inches), I was very disappointed : the tenga 3D spiral is too tight, my cock is over-stimulated. I stopped to use it because I get much more pleasure with my hand…

    Since this unpleasant experience, I’m concerned to buy another yet useless toy…

    I would like a less stimulating and less tight sextoy,. A sextoy that allows me to edge several times and then to stroke for longer period of times (e.g. 20 minutes).

    What sextoy could fit my needs ?

    The FL mini lotus seems tight. Maybe the FL lotus could be better?

    Thanks.

    Note: It is possible that this message was doubly sent in an another post. However since I’m not sure and i don’t see that I send it again…

    • In Bed Staff says:

      The Mini Lotus is actually really good for edging once you get used to it and if you work it slowly. Don’t be confused by the name of the Mini Lotus though. It’s not actually tighter than the regular Lotus. It’s the exact same texture, but it begins closer to the entry so that guys who are an average size can feel the good stuff. When the full size Lotus came out, guys who were average length (which is between 5.5 and 6″) complained that the most interesting parts of the full size Lotus didn’t start soon enough for them to feel much of it. So, they released they designed the Mini Lotus to the same specs but just made the texture begin sooner. Does that makes sense?

  3. J says:

    Seriously thinking about getting a flashlight pilot. I already have the ice. Tenga flip hole black was my favorite but I ruined the gel by using oil based products on it. I will say that flesh light material is very well made but nothing beats hitting the Orb towards the back of the tenga black. I also like the slurping and pussy farting sounds but there are so many different preferences when it comes to what’s hot and what’s not. After reading the comments I’m now thinking about trying the tenga 3d sleeve

    • In Bed Staff says:

      Thanks for sharing your experience and the things you liked about the Tenga. You are right, for some people the sounds are a total turn-on, and that’s cool. The Tenga is definitely good at that. We intend to feature the Tenga Flip White next in order to compare. I’m also quite interested in the Tenga 3D as well. Come back and share your experience with it if you feel like it.

      • Anonymous says:

        Well I bought another tenga flip black and honestly the flimsy plastic that holds the sliding top in place broke on me after a few uses. Was disappointed. Bought a flesh light pilot black and I will say it is probably the best toy I have purchased so far. Satisfied customer 🙂

  4. alex says:

    Never used Tengas and I don’t fancy them tbh as they do look more rigid than FleshLights. Especially at that price lol you must be nuts to waste money of that. Not only that, I’d be worried about myself pushing too hard in the seam and slipping through with the lube and cutting my cock. 🙁 No thanks, I wanna feel protected on all sides of my lil man 😀
    I’m a huge FleshLight fan, well I’m a super fan anyway 😉
    They’re always awesome, I just wish i could have a hole tighter than the ultra tight. Yes i really said that and I mean it lol. Or maybe an actual textured UltraTight. And I also wish the thickness of the wall stayed nice and thick right to the end of it 🙂
    Cleaning them though has always been the biggest pain, especially the Ultra Tight as you can’t really turn that inside out without damaging it. Can’t even get them anymore anyway so whatever.
    Honestly though, I have put off using my FleshLights in the past simply cuz I didn’t fancy the clean up afterwards. if they were easier to clean/dry, i’d use them more often and therefore need to buy them more often.
    But I use Plenty (kitchen roll) to dry my FLs to dry them on one side, then slowly peel it off, plenty is best cuz it leaves no fibres and wont break like other kitchen rolls would. (no I don’t work for the company 😛 ). Then i do the same for the inside, then when it’s all sticky and feels dry, I sprinkle cournflour over it til it feels like it did when I first bought it.
    That takes me just a few minutes to clean and dry it thoroughly.

  5. Mark says:

    To each his own.
    Personally, I prefer the feel of the Tenga.
    I have owned many fleshlights (vortex, flight, ice butt, STU, sex in a can) and many Tengas (a few eggs, all 3D models, and all flip holes)

    I find that by and large fleshlights have macro textures that take a while to get used to. While most tenga’s have micro textures that feel pleasurable right away. Flip holes and flashlights also last about the same regardless of what is stated by the companies. My personal fave right now is the 3D Spiral Sleeve.
    I wish their were more choices out there though.

    • In Bed Staff says:

      Thanks for your input! I hope to get some time soon to check out some of the other colored Tenga Flips and see if they are a different experience. I’ve read since that the white is softer and a better experience than the black. And, I also really want to get my hands on the 3D sleeves. So little time, so many possibilities…and then there’s the budget. Our next priority is to get some more reviews produced for the ladies and couples in the next few months, and then circle back to some more guy toys. Thanks!

  6. Jeff says:

    As far as drying the Fleshlight goes…after washing I dry the outside with a clean towel and then turn it inside out and repeat the process. It makes dry time much faster.

    I found your magazine only a week ago. I like it and the reviews are very well done. I am turning into a regular reader and very much enjoy the articles on the variety of bed related subjects. Keep up the good work.

  7. Jeff says:

    I have had and used both. So far I have had 3 Fleshlights and one Tenga. I prefer the Fleshlighs as I found the “squishy” noise of the Tenga to be distracting. I do like the Tenga drying stand but for me the Flashlight wins hands down. I will always have one. They give great orgasms. Much better than a hand.

    • In Bed Staff says:

      Cool! Thanks for the comment. I’m planning on testing some of the other Tenga Flip Holes in the near future to see if the experience is any different, but so far, I have to agree on the sounds. I’ve read that some people actually like the sounds…each to their own, but for me it was a turn-off.

  8. Anonymous says:

    Huh.. I have that Tenga and it wins hand and real ***** any time.

    • In Bed Staff says:

      Thanks for the comment, Anon. Have you used both the Tenga and a Fleshlight in order to see how they compare yet? We’re not trying to sell you on the Fleshlight, but just wondering if you’ve actually used both and if you’d like to share what you liked about the Tenga vs. the Fleshlight (if you tried both). Or, just share what you like about the Tenga regardless. And yes, there’s no question about it, actual sex is better than a Fleshlight or Tenga, but sex toys are also always ready and willing whenever you are, and can also be fun in partner play. I think of it like this—ordering Dominos pizza may not be as awesome as flying up to NYC and grabbing some slices at Lombardi’s (or name your favorite regional pizza place), but it’s still way better than heating up a frozen diet pizza in the microwave, not to mention more readily available/affordable than a trip to The Big Apple. But yeah, when you’re on the plane to NY, who’s going to be wishing for Dominos?

    • anonymous says:

      I agree Tenga is much better, I have 2 fleshlights I seldom use, Tenga eggs are good too and so easy to clean.

      • In Bed Staff says:

        Thanks for the comment! We plan to do a rematch this year that compares the White Flight to the White Tenga. I’ve read that the white Tenga is very different from the Black one in terms of sensation. I don’t know if it’ll change the other factors in the comparison or not, but it will be interesting to see. I also totally agree that the Tenga Eggs are good. We plan to get an article up about them soon.

  9. Anonymous says:

    I’ve been thinking about purchasing a toy specifically for myself for years. Your article finally convinced me to go for it! It in no way will be the same as having my girlfriend in bed with me…… but when the cats away the mice will play!

    • In Bed Staff says:

      Great! Thanks for taking the time to post a comment. Fleshlights and other sex toys are definitely not synonymous with being single—not in 2015 anyway. Sex is all about giving and sharing, but sometimes it’s nice to just enjoy a little bit of time that’s exclusively all about you and indulge yourself in ways that only you can. Somehow we get this idea in our heads that once we’re with a partner, our partner becomes responsible for (or entitled to) being the cause of every orgasm we have from there on out. That’s not really fair from any angle. Solo time is important. For example, check out our article about staying intimate when life gets in they way of sex, in which a couple explains how sex toys (including Fleshlights) keep their fires burning when life gets so busy that they have trouble finding time for sex.

      That having been said, keep in mind that sex toys, including Fleshlights, can be awesome for partner play. I read one woman say that she loved the Fleshlight because it was like giving her boyfriend a hand job with super powers. (Seriously, the textures inside do all the work.) And I’ve read other accounts where women who aren’t really into giving oral sex have been able to blow their partner’s minds with a Fleshlight instead. We’re actually working on an article that investigates what the best sex toys are for couples to play with together. So perhaps it doesn’t have to come out only “when the cat is away”. They cat might actually enjoy getting in on that. And if you’re a little hesitant to introduce your female partner to using a Fleshlight, maybe purchasing her a toy at the same time would be a good way to break that ice.

      Good luck and enjoy. Thanks again for the comment!

  10. Anonymous says:

    Awesome review! I just ordered a Flight Pilot in their Black Friday sale… It’s gonna be an early Christmas for me!

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