“Grab your cell phone, take a picture of your room. Take several. Look at the pictures, what do you see? Clutter or Comfort?”
Success In Bed —how to set up your bedroom for romance, sex, and togetherness.
When I used to babysit, I would look at the parent’s bedrooms and think—I will never let my bedroom become like this…full of laundry, the ironing board down the middle, a dresser covered in paper, hangers on the door. I vowed I would never let my grown up bedroom look like that.
Bedrooms are so often the hub of a home or apartment. When company is coming, you toss things in there because it is the less public space for that visit. You start your day there, you end your day there. Sometimes we have to take a step back and really look at our room. Is this a place that promotes getting laid? How does it look, smell, feel?
Depending on how old you are, you may have a bedroom covered in drinking paraphernalia or sculpture; fine art or posters, twin bed or California king. No matter where you are in life, your partner’s senses are a first impression so let’s make it a good one.
What’s that saying…you can’t see the forest for the trees? When you are living in it, you don’t always see it. Grab your cell phone, take a picture of your room. Take several. Look at the pictures, what do you see? Clutter or Comfort? Chaos? Peace?
If it’s a first impression we’re talking about here, your partner is going to look around.
Does junk mail make you want to take your clothes off? De-clutter surfaces, wipe stuff down, straighten things up.
Next, let’s talk smell. You don’t have to go all aromatherapy on everything, and please, put down the body spray. Let’s just talk clean…wash your sheets, make sure your laundry is out of sight and definitely can’t be smelled. Open a window, air the place out. If you have a nice candle with a scent, light it, for a little bit – not long and not a dozen of them. Too much of any scent can be a turn off.
So now your room looks good, smells good, let’s talk feel good. How old are those sheets and pillows? Did you know sheets with a higher thread count are softer? How do you want your bedroom to feel? Collect items that make you feel good. If you are on a budget, look at TJ Maxx, Tuesday Morning, Marshalls for housewares and linens. Most people aren’t turned on by Walmart lighting, get some lamps with a warm light and soft glow. Make your partner want to be in your bed.